Support is one of the most important things, isn’t it?
I mean, whether you are single, single with children, married, married with children, you gotta have support.
I’m truly blessed with support. Not only do I get it from my awesome husband, family and friends but thanks to this blog, I also get it from you guys.
I would like to share with you some of the wonderful advice I received on here after I wrote Thoughts on balance.
It’s always good to be reminded that we are not alone when going through something.
As mothers (or as individuals) I think we often forget. The comments I received were quick reminders that ALL mothers go pretty much through the same things.
Sure some carry heavier and lighter burdens than some others but, we are all mothers after all and we all want to make sure that we are doing the best job at motherhood.
One piece of advice that was a true eye opener was through FB from my grammar school friend Caroline.
She wrote: “I read your blog and I want you to know that you are not alone. Some of the days are dark when your kids are little and so dependent. School/programs are a great option, but also look at what you expect of yourself each day and don’t worry if some days your expectations are higher than you can reach. This is a marathon and it will be your overall relationship with L that endures – not an accounting of the stimulating activities you did or did not plan and execute on any given day. Good luck. I’ve been where you are now :)”
The underlined is what has stuck with me. To be reminded that it’s ok if I’m not “ON” all day every day. Lily is not putting pressure on me and neither is Will. It is my own doing. Of course! It only makes perfect sense. Thank you Caroline!
Scheduling time for myself was the advice mostly given. This is something that Will and I have been slowly implementing and has been working out quite well.
A few nights a week we take turns staying home with Lily while we do what we need to do for ourselves. Exercise, go out with friends, what have you.
As far as painting is concerned, I have decided that some family quality time will have to be sacrificed but hey, that’s what I have to do. I like to paint in natural light and during long stretches of hours.
So, if some family weekends are sacrificed, that’s ok. It will give Will and Lily some solo quality time and that is a good thing too.
Thank you all so much for all the advice and support. It’s what it’s all about isn’t it? Us mothers got to stick together!
Here is a little video about parenting taboos that my friend Hanna shared with me. It’s 17 minutes long but take the time. It’s worth it.