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omg three is killing me

Claudia 04 February 2013 12 comments

omg what happened to my sweet girl who used to listen?

oh yeah… she turned three

i had been told (warned) by a few friends and had read on a few blogs that three is the true terrible twos and i so see it now

it is happening

the not listening

i do not even know how many times i have to repeat myself in order to get a point across and even then it’s like it goes in one ear and out the other because she will still do what she wanted to do and not what i asked her not to do

it drives me crazy and makes me feel like a horrible mom all at once

i try

i try to ask nicely the first three (five) times

but then i can’t help but to lose a little patience, and my voice starts getting louder. and louder…

i have even slapped her butt a few times. i am not proud of this. at all

this is not the mom i want to be

constantly yelling and threatening her with playdate cancellations and what have you

i miss the days where things went smoothly and i felt like she and i were the best of friends

these days i feel like i’m her worst enemy (and she’s not even a teenager yet)

she has already told me “mommy, you are angry with me every time”

i cannot even tell you the tears i shed

because even though it’s not every time, it’s a lot more than it used to be

and there are days where i seriously get sick over it

then there is the crying that turns into the fake crying which she actually makes last longer if she is near a mirror because she likes to watch herself cry (wth!!???)

this although annoying i can somewhat handle because i just tell her to go elsewhere so i don’t hear her

either way, it’s new and not pleasant

and let’s not forget the compromising

when i start raising my voice and getting upset with her, she will very calmly look at me and say “mommy, just take a deeeeeeeeeep breath”

she will say this looking at me with those blue eyes of hers that seriously make me want to scream louder and cry for feeling awful altogether

three

three just started and i already cannot wait for four

because it gets better again, right?

it has to

and yet, as awful as three is, it does come with wonderful wonder, imagination, magic and the best of conversations

on its good moments

so, i ask you wise ones who have had three, how did you deal with it?

did you make it out ok?

will there be non screaming days again?

in the past:

The three amigos

Jungle Island

family

apple picking for german apple pancakes

everyday life motherhood, self

12 comments

Hanna
February 5, 2013 at 12:23 am

Oh, boy, do I ever hear you:

http://ndsizemore.blogspot.com/2013/02/parenting-pro-tips.html

And lots of experience parents tell me it gets better, too. Fingers crossed.

http://www.soulemama.com/soulemama/2012/11/four.html

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- Claudia
  February 5, 2013 at 2:05 am
  
  @Hanna,
  
  why was not aware that you have a blog? great one too! i don’t even know how you do it with two. took a look at your pics, your boys are so cute and have gotten so big! love the pics of them blowing bubbles. we need luck. and lots of patience!
  
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  - Hanna
    February 5, 2013 at 12:06 pm
    
    It’s really Dane’s blog, I just do most of the writing and photos. I write on it pretty irregularly, and Dane writes on it even less.
    
    For some reason, Blogger has a fit when I try to type the URL in the Website box on Lil Muse Lily. I don’t have trouble other places, so I just don’t type it in here.
    
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    Claudia
    February 5, 2013 at 12:52 pm
    
    @Hanna,
    
    well i’m glad it let you this time around. you should keep at it! xo
    
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Lisa
February 5, 2013 at 3:15 am

I think little girls are so full of emotion and get frustrated trying to communicate how they feel it turns them a little crazy.
My daughters 4 now and its gotten better but she always wants everything on her terms! and that drives me crazy!

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- Claudia
  February 5, 2013 at 12:50 pm
  
  @Lisa,
  
  she is just so demanding these days and not very good at listening. it’s driving me bonkers!!
  
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Natasha
February 5, 2013 at 1:16 pm

Yes, I feel the same way and they are only 2! Now you have me scared. I know they are young but I also know they understand and are just ignoring me and then I lose my patience and yell which probably doesn’t help. Then I’m up all night worrying that I ruined them and that I’m a terrible mom. glad I’m not alone

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- Claudia
  February 5, 2013 at 1:28 pm
  
  @Natasha,
  
  isn’t that the worst feeling? i think all of us moms go through this. xo
  
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mel
February 5, 2013 at 2:08 pm

Ummmm.. right there with you, of course! Gah.. she’s miss HUGE drama emotion queen.. and I just keep trying new ways to get through to her (that don’t involve my head spinning around!)… even with being consistent in discipline, she still pushes the envelope every.single.time! Phew…
Last night she tore her poor face all up from being so nuts that she dove off her change area.. rug burn/bleeding nose… gah!!
Anywho. don’t get me started.. lol.. GOOD LUCK to us all eh?
xx
mel
needle and nest

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- Claudia
  February 5, 2013 at 2:26 pm
  
  @Mel,
  
  omg!!! is she ok? poor Azriel! did you have to take her to the hospital? yes, good luck to us all! xo
  
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Kelley
February 5, 2013 at 3:23 pm

Have you read Love & Logic? They have some good tips about keeping your cool and not yelling, spanking, etc. It gives you the control back. Just some tips that may be useful! sounds like hell.

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- Claudia
  February 5, 2013 at 4:21 pm
  
  @Kelley,
  
  i have not heard of love&logic but will check them out. thanks for sharing. xo
  
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