A little bit of postpartum but a whole lot of hope

Let me start off by saying that I am not afraid of saying the word postpartum and hate the fact that most people look at it and excuse it in an awful way like P.M.S.

According to the wikipedia the exact definition of postpartum is: Postpartum depression (PPD), also called postnatal depression, is a form of clinical depression which can affect women, and less frequently men, after childbirth. Studies report prevalence rates among women from 5% to 25%, but methodological differences among the studies make the actual prevalence rate unclear. Among men, in particular new fathers, the incidence of postpartum depression has been estimated to be between 1.2% and 25.5%.[1] Postpartum depression occurs in women after they have carried a child, usually in the first few months. Symptoms include sadness, fatigue, insomnia, appetite changes, reduced libido, crying episodes, anxiety, and irritability. Current data suggests that 5 to 9 percent of women will develop postpartum depression[citation needed], but less than one in five of these women will seek professional help. It is sometimes assumed that postpartum depression is caused by a lack of vitamins [2], but studies tend to show that more likely causes are the significant changes in a woman’s hormones during pregnancy[citation needed]. On the other hand, hormonal treatment has not helped postpartum depression victims. Many women recover because of a support group or counseling.[3][4]

That said, it’s perfectly normal to go through what I’m going through. Right? Let’s go through the check off list.

Sadness. It’s light but I’ve had my moments. So, CHECK.

Fatigue. I’m not getting enough sleep because Lily wakes up 3-5 times during the night. CHECK.

Insomnia. Sometimes (like last night) at night after a feeding, I can’t fall back asleep and I just lie there crying because of how tired I am. CHECK.

Appetite changes. I think I eat more now than I did when I was pregnant. I tend to go towards food when I’m depressed. CHECK.

Reduced libido. Yup. No interest in sex whatsoever. CHECK.

Crying episodes. I don’t get enough sleep, I’m tired, I hardly get any time for myself. They’ve happened. CHECK.

Anxiety. Not so much.

Irritability. Again, doesn’t lack of sleep and rest cause irritability? CHECK.

It shouldn’t be so alarming for a mom to say she is going through postpartum. After all, in a way, it seems like the normal thing to go through after giving birth. I mean, how could we not?

Just like everything, there are however different levels of postpartum and different ways people deal with it.

This is the way I’m dealing with mine. To write about it here, recognize it and to just deal with it. It’s not like I hate my life or Lily. I am a very fortunate person and have a wonderful life, husband and baby. And, for the most part, I am a happy person. However, things did change very fast as well as did the hormones.

Sometimes I think that maybe I wasn’t yet ready for motherhood because I feel selfish wanting “me” time. But is it selfish to want to be healthy, well rested and to look good and well taken care of as I did before?

How does that saying go? “A happy mother is a happy baby”?

Then I look at Lily and I can’t imagine my life without her. (tears) I love her. And I love Will. I just don’t love myself the way I used to and that makes me feel like I am not loving them as much as I could. It’s hard to love someone if you don’t love yourself.

Everything has been so rewarding lately so how can I feel so…so…old and tired? I feel so old and tired.

At the end of it all, there are worst days and there are better days and just like everything, this too will pass.


In honor of feeling better and normal or better yet, better than normal, I went to get my hair cut today. So here’s to the positive side of things! 😉

Me with my new haircut and Lily wearing a t-shirt, pants and shoes by babyGap and bodysuit by Old Navy.

Things we LOVE!

We LOVE Lily’s babyGap madras Mary-Jane shoes that were a gift from our friend Dnene.

Lily wears them everywhere and with just about anything. She is almost outgrowing them….. 🙁

Here she is sporting some of her best looks with her little madras babyGap shoes. In order Lily wears hoodie jacket by Tea, shirt, socks and shoes by babyGap and leggings by Old Navy. Dress/tunic, pants, shoes and socks all by babyGap. Dress by Old Navy, pants by Tea and shoes by babyGap.

Must have of the day

My cousin Ana posted this wonderful artist’s work on my facebook wall on saturday and I just about lost it!

Brace yourselves owl and other birds and nature lovers (Holly). Helen Musselwhite has the MOST beautiful art I have seen in a very long time.

It’s hard to choose. Every single piece is beautiful and dreamy. A total “Must” in Lily’s imaginary bedroom.

One will do for now

This past saturday we took off to Pine Island, FL to go visit dear friends of ours. Pine Island is about a 2-3 hour ride away from Miami.

Before leaving the house, while I gathered all of our things, Will made a comment about how it now took twice as long and as much stuff to go anywhere. “HA! and you want another one” I told him.

It’s true, it does take twice as long and twice as much stuff to go anywhere. But, it will take even longer and much more stuff when/if there will be another.

And I say when/if because right now, as much as I would love to have another, I can’t even think about it and (excuse me) my vagina hurts just hearing about the thought of it.

We packed ourselves and our things in the car and were smoothly cruising when Lily awoke from her nap because she had to do the BIGGEST bowel movement.

She has made it her tradition to do so as soon as we start on any long car trip. The same thing happened in December when we started driving to West Virginia.

As I sat next to her in the back seat, I looked at Will with fear in my face and commented on how it did not sound or smell good. And sure enough, as I peaked underneath her leg, it was EVERYWHERE! All over her clothes and the car seat.

It’s a good thing that by now, I know her and I packed plastic bags (for dirty clothes) and 3 other changes although we were only going for an overnight trip.

In the back seat I changed a very messy Lily and cleaned the car seat and thought to myself….imagine 2? Very brave are the ones who do it.

So, with a clean and happy Lily, we carried on with our driving and made it to Pine Island safely and without any other messes.

We had a wonderful time and I think I will enjoy Lily for now and not worry about the second one until much later. My clock is ticking though…..

Here are some highlights of our trip. In order Lily wears cardigan and leggings by babyGap, dress by Old Navy and hat gift from Natasha. Romper, polka dot shirt and shoes by babyGap, polka dot tights by Zutano.

Another diaper update

We went through the Huggies Little Snugglers quite fast. There was one major leak accident while we were out. Something that had not happened with the Pampers Swaddlers.

What diapers to use next? We opted for the Seventh Generation in size 3.

They are definitely very “green” and earthy. They’re not nearly as soft or cute as the others but they do the job. Unlike the reviews we read, Lily did not get any diaper rash although they seem to not absorb the number 2’s as well.

However, because they are so “green”, I feel like I’m packing Lily up in cardboard and shipping her somewhere every time I change her diaper.

As environmentally friendly as I like to be, I think I will stick with either Huggies or Pampers. And because we are so “green” in so many other aspects of our daily lives, I don’t feel like I will go to “green” hell for it. 😉

Here is Lily in her Seventh Generation diapers. The only thing cute about these diapers is….Lily!

All together again

Yesterday was the most beautiful day out. It was perfect! Clear blue sky, sunny, in the 60’s, no humidity, PERFECT!

Lily and I had our regular morning routine and went for a long walk.

Will arrived shortly after. YAY!! Both Lily and I missed him like crazy.

Lily is so funny when she is with Will. She gives me this look like “Look mom, I’m with dad.” and she has this serious almost snobby look to her like she’s saying “I’m cool.”. LOL

I was able to take a much needed nap in the afternoon while Will played with Lily. It makes such a difference having Will home. 🙂

It was such a beautiful late afternoon, it inspired us to walk to the beach and sit there for a while.

Both Lily and I are so happy that Will is back.

Here we at the beach. Lily wears pants, jacket and socks by babyGap, hat by Zutano.

Things we LOVE!

As far as pajamas go, we have had all different kinds. Sleepers in cotton and in fleece with feet that either zipper up or snap up.

I find that Lily is the happiest with her feet not covered while she sleeps. She’s like me this way. I can’t sleep with socks on.

When it comes to changing her during the night while I’m half asleep, pull on pants are the easiest you can get. Zippers can get tricky and snaps take too long.

That’s why we LOVE these pajamas by Old Navy!

They are soft, easy, they have owls on them. They just make us happy. 🙂

We actually just ordered some more in bigger sizes and in other fun prints. (More pictures to come.)

Here is a happy Lily in her Old Navy pajamas.